Monday, 21 November 2016
Boys are Best!
Yes, I know that title could be considered a tad controversial (though I can see all the boys whooping with joy), but bear with me.
No, I am not alluding to my sexuality, though to confirm (if you were in any doubt) I do like men. I am talking about friends, you see I am not a girly girl! Honestly. I know that will come as something of a shock to some of you, but whilst the exterior is very cute and feminine, the inside has more in common with the boys. It's no good, however hard I try, I just do not get 'girls'. Yes I went to an all girls' school, but most of my friends growing up were boys and I still prefer male friends, they're just easier, less work and a lot more fun. Don't get me wrong, I have friends who are female and they're lovely, but the ones I get on with most are the less 'pink' girls.
Although I have a super group of girl friends, and we really do have some fun get togethers, I'd still much rather go on a night out with the boys. For a start you don't have to spend hours getting yourself ready. When you are out, you don't have to listen to endless conversations about husbands, families, cooking, housework and shopping trips, even though I do all those things, I sometimes find such conversations difficult. I think, in part because my children are older than those of my friends, so although I know what they're talking about, the conversation isn't really relevant to me and I feel a little out of it. Put me in a group of boys though, and I'm happy as a pig in mud (yes, I know it's not mud, but as we've previously discussed, this is not that kind of a blog, so no swear words allowed). Boys just talk about, well boy stuff and are more laid back and straight forward and I feel more at home.
Their social media posts are different from ours too. Let me give an example of a social media post (fictitious, though I have seen similar), and how a man and a woman 'might' write about the same thing:
Woman's Post - Happy Anniversary to my wonderful, handsome, amazing hubby. So lucky to be married to my best friend...blah, blah, blah
Man's Post - Married my best friend this day 'x' years ago. If anyone finds her, let me know! LOL Sorry love, only joking x
Perhaps that's a little extreme, but you know what I'm saying. Us girls have a tendency to be a little (yes ladies, we've all done it) more serious and gushy than the boys; not that they can't be serious too and not that we can't be fun, we're girls, of course we're fun!
I just find being in the company of men is easier. I don't have to think about what I say, or how I say it. If I do say something that comes out a bit, straight to the point in a group of men, no one will be offended, no one will hold it against me or judge me. If I do the same in a group of girls, I will at the very least, shock someone with my bluntness. The boys, take me as they find me, I don't need to put on any airs and graces to keep everyone happy. I can be me, something I don't feel fully able to do with my girl friends, I'm constantly trying (and failing) to rein myself in.
I see it with my girls already. That constant competition to be the best amongst their groups of friends. Miss. L is very like me, she has a few girl friends, but the rest are boys, and like me, the girl friends she has are not 'pink' girls. Even so, from time to time she still has problems with some of those other 'pink' girls. She prefers boys, and that's one of the main reasons she is not going to her local grammar school, she would go nuts surrounded by only girls, she needs a balance of boys and girls.
Being a girl is tough, I love my girl friends, but it's my male friends who help to keep me sane...although I'm not sure they'd agree ;-)